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Important: If you are a woman between the ages of 40 to 60, “In As Little As 90 Days You Can
From the desk of: Jennifer T. Grainger Hello, I’d like to tell you about a few people I know who are feeling stuck and stymied in their lives. Even though their individual circumstances are quite different, they share the same dilemma. They feel dissatisfied, anxious, restless, and confused about what to do next. Some are angry. Some feel selfish for wanting more for themselves. Most feel guilty for how they are feeling. Lynette, age 53, married, has been a stay-at-home mom with 4 children. Her two daughters are married. She has one still-single son out on his own. Her youngest son has just gone off to college. Her sterile marriage has been held together “for the sake of the kids” for quite a few years. Thoughts of being a single woman, free to live her life however she wants, float in the back of her mind. She tries to shake them off telling herself she just needs to make the best of it. But something inside of her longs to expand into something new, if only she knew what it was! Her discontent leaks out as irritability bordering on anger. She feels guilty for feeling this way. She tells herself she needs to snap out of it, yet when she looks ahead to this being her life for the next 30 to 40 years she suddenly feels very tired. Sylvia, age 50, never married, has been with the same Silicon Valley company for over 20 years, working her way up from receptionist to Vice President of Marketing. She is nearly the oldest employee in the entire company. Her boss is Doreen age 54, divorced, for 10 years, has a great job with great pay and great benefits. She’s been in a relationship with a man for 7 years. She used to enjoy his company, but for the last 6 months or so she finds herself feeling more annoyed than enamored. She thinks of ending the relationship, but worries that at her age she’d not likely find someone else. Her girlfriends assure her that “all the good men are already married.” She dreads the idea of growing old alone. Not knowing what to do is taking it’s toll. Too much wine every night is making it even harder to get out of bed every morning. Mary Anne, age 60, married for 24 years to her second husband, has one grown son from her first marriage. She and her husband have settled into living parallel lives. Looking from the outside, they have it all: nice house, expensive cars, money to do whatever they want. From the inside it is a different story: no shared interests, and they don’t particularly enjoy each other's company. Mary Anne has a nagging desire to start an import business, but her doubts (and her husband) tell her she is too old to start something new. She feels like she has wasted her life and feels guilty for not being grateful for what she does have.
What Do These Women Have In Common? They all are dissatisfied with the lives they are living, and feel somewhat trapped, but they don’t know for sure what they’d rather have instead. (By the way, I did change the names and altered some material facts in order to disguise their identities.)
Do any of these stories sound familiar? You’re not alone. In fact, most women in the 40 to 60 age range are sharing similar experiences. Did you know the hormone changes at midlife are supposed to make you feel dissastisfied to boost you into the next cycle of your life . . . your new Prime of Life?! See if any of the below statements apply to you:
If you said “yes” to any of these statements, then this is your lucky day! I have the solution for you. But first, did you know that all of these situations go hand-in-hand with the midlife transition? Did you know that today’s women between the ages of 40 to 60, are the first generation of women to be culturally free to blossom into their new Prime of Life? Did you know that this transition often includes . . .
Most of our mothers and grandmothers never had a chance to blossom into their Authentic Selves. Your Authentic Self is who you are at your core. It is the you that came into this world with a mission and a purpose, along with unique skills, talents and wisdom to fulfill your mission and your purpose. Your Authentic Self embodies all the things that are uniquely yours. Your midlife transition is your moment in time to throw off the false self you were trained to pretend to be and step into the full expression of your Authentic Self. Previous generations of women were trained from childhood to be subservient, and financially dependent in a patriarchal society. Menopause, often seen as the end of their usefulness, meant fading into the background, their main value being unpaid babysitters and community volunteers. Instead of fading, some had “nervous breakdowns.”
The Current Generation of Baby Bloomer Women Are Simply Not Going to Stand for It! In order to feel safe and fit in, most of us abandoned our real, authentic selves by the time we were 11 or 12. The midlife transition is your chance to reclaim your true self, yet navigating this transition into the second half of your life is a daunting journey, to say the least! There are very few role models to turn to. With the lack of a road map, and many external pressures for you to not change, the results are predictable: feelings of anger, guilt, confusion, doubt, anxiety, and the fear of being selfish. Did you know that the midlife hormonal changes that can cause anxiety, fatigue, depression, fuzzy thinking, and mood swings are your body’s way of telling you to STOP and PAY ATTENTION to yourself?
You’d Think Paying Attention to Yourself Would Be Easy to Do. It’s not! After spending the first half of your life caring for everyone else, you might find the connection to your Authentic Self high on the endangered species list! I often hear women say, “But it feels so selfish to think about what I want.” When they become convinced that “giving from a full cup” is beneficial to everyone, then I hear, “Wow, I didn’t know it would be so hard to pay attention to what I want!”
The Good News . . . . . . all of this is a NORMAL part of the transition into your new Prime of Life. Remember the emotional turbulence of adolescence? Well, Mother Nature gives us another surge in midlife. You might think of menopausal hormones as Mother Nature’s fertilizer! She intends for you to GROW into your next level . . . your Authentic Self. WARNING! “It is not nice to fool Mother Nature.” If you choose to NOT blossom as Mother Nature intends, don’t kid yourself, you will fade. (Sorry, but that’s the truth. )
That’s it! There is no other hidden secret. That’s the whole enchilada. In other words, people who are successfully moving forward know how to ask High Quality Questions; they know how to recognize the answers, and they are able to stay focused on where they are going.
Do You Know How to Formulate a High Quality Question? The difference between a High Quality Question and one that is not high quality is so subtle you may have to read the following explanation a few times to recognize the difference. A High Quality question is focused on the desired result. A not-so-high-quality question is focused on the problem. EXAMPLES:
(Why am I teaching you this fundamental technique for finding what’s next for yourself? Because it is important to me that you get something out of this. My passion is helping women successfully transition into their new Prime of Life. I want to see you blossom instead of fade, even if you don’t take advantage of my program. That’s why I am giving you a Gold Nugget here — expanding your consciousness around the thoughts that you have when thinking about troublesome situations that crop up in your daily life.) Frankly, if you don’t know how to raise your thinking to a higher level, you will continue to get what you already have. This Just May Be The SOLUTION Introducing: The 90 Days To Aha! Program, a focused, accelerated program that will catapult you from Bogged Down to Fired Up in Just 90 days! In just 90 Days you can be confidently moving forward with your next step on your journey into your new Prime of Life. This structured, supportive, step-by-step program gets you out of overwhelm and moving in the direction your soul is demanding that you follow. Every part of your being wants you to be living passionately as your Authentic Self. How do you know if this program is the SOLUTION (soul-ution) you’ve been looking for? Answer “yes” or “no” to the following questions:
If you answered “yes” to at least two questions, then you can definitely benefit from the 90 Days To Aha! Program. RELIEF IS ON THE WAY! Imagine . . .
What would your life look like with you clearly knowing where you are going, and what your next step is? If the idea of feeling confident and clear about your next step is appealing to you, then what are you waiting for? If not now, when? Get started now by applying for your spot on my 90 Days To Aha! private coaching program schedule. These slots are limited to a few new clients each month.
You’re probably curious specifically about what makes up this program. Well, I’m going to lay it out for you right now. The 90 Days To Aha! Program is the support you deserve to have on this leg of your journey. And it couldn’t be easier!
#1 You get 10 private coaching sessions (a $1150 value) If you are new to coaching, you will be AMAZED at how effective coaching is at getting to your deepest truth so quickly. The combination of regularly scheduled sessions, the laser-like focus, and that magical something that happens when you and I are intently focused on YOU, produces those Aha! moments more quickly than any other process I know of. The principle behind coaching is that the coach has the questions and the client has the answers. Again, I say you will be AMAZED at how apparently simple questions (for example “why is that important to you?”) can tap into your inner wisdom and offer up answers you didn’t know you had in you. #2 You get a copy of my book, Becoming Conscious: One Woman’s Story of Spiritual Awakening (a $15 value). Becoming Conscious: One Woman’s Story of Spiritual Awakening, is my story of waking up to the reality that exists outside the normal range of our five senses, that is, until you learn to develop your sensitivity that was lost in childhood. Nobody was calling what I experienced a “midlife transition” back then (my story starts in 1989 and chronicles my journey through 2006). And today only a few medical professionals (Christiane Northrup, M.D. being the most notable) are calling the midlife transition a spiritual awakening, which it is. Although my story is specific to my spiritual path, I hear from people from many diverse religious beliefs and backgrounds, (agnostics too) that although our spiritual methods may differ, our experiences are very similar. When I originally wrote my story I did it because I felt that I must. I really didn’t think anyone would read it. I ran 50 copies off on my printer and had them hand bound, thinking I had done my job. The demand for more books encouraged me to self publish a “real book.” I might not have been so honest had I known it would be so widely read! #3 You get a CD containing a guided visualization called, Future Self (a $12.95 value). This fascinating exercise of your imagination takes you 20 years into the future to meet your Future Self who has already lived your future. You can ask for, and get, advice and direction from your wise future self that may possibly astound and delight you! #4 You get a CD containing a guided visualization called Reclaiming a Split Off Part of Your Authentic Self (a $12.95 value). As we are growing up we begin to disown parts of ourselves that our family and our culture tells us are not acceptable. These disowned parts are stuffed into the subconscious and become our Shadow Self. Some of our greatest gifts and talents are attached to these split off parts of our Authentic Self. Reclaiming these parts is an essential step in becoming your Authentic Self #5 You get a beautifully bound journal to record your Ahas! (A $19.95 value) Having an attractive journal to record your insights may be just the enticement to lure you into getting to know your true self through the process of journaling. #6 You get email support following each coaching session. Emails that provide regular encouragement and genuine appreciation for your progress are one more benefit of this accelerated program designed to get you to where you want to go even if you don’t know where that is when you start. (You will by the time we are finished!) #7 Best of all, you get my love, support and caring about YOU and YOUR success! This is what my client, Leah, wrote to me:
By now you are probably saying to yourself, “Jennifer, this sounds perfect and something I really want to do! What is my dollar investment in this program to get me going in the right direction with my life?” Because I’m going to be giving you valuable, innovative information along with my undivided attention that will zoom you through obstacles and get right to your own Ahas! (I love hearing from my former clients about how much my coaching helped them reach their goals), plus give you the benefit of my own midlife transition experiences (in a way I am like the wagon master leading people out west. Isn’t it a lot safer going into new territory with someone who knows the trail, one who knows the perils and pitfalls of the journey?) you can be sure this is a valuable program, one that is well worth the investment. To put this in perspective, let me fill you in on this . . . I have two coaches I pay over $6,300 a year to work with. Not to mention the tens of thousands more I have spent (and STILL spend) on attending workshops, conferences, purchasing books and programs. Is it worth it? Yes! But only because I put what I’m learning into action! And even though I am organized, motivated and focused I STILL need someone to hold me accountable and to remind me of what is most important to me when there are a gazillion distractions luring my attention away from where I need and want to go. Which is why I feel so strongly about the incredible value I’m offering you in this program. I want you to join this program excited about this investment . . . and in yourself! So I’ve priced this program to make it easy for you to say “Yes!”, knowing you’ll receive value beyond your expectations. Why? Because I know that the idea of coaching is new to many people. Yet I know how valuable and essential it is to have a coach in this too-much-information age where we are constantly bombarded with waves of overwhelm of too much to do and not nearly enough time to do it. (At least it seems that way. Once you know what you want it becomes easier to de-clutter your life of things that are not aligned with your Purpose.) Your 90 Days To Aha! Program is $897, payable in 3 installments of $299 each. That’s just $9.97 a day! That includes everything you just read about—10 private coaching sessions ($1,150 value) , my book, Becoming Conscious: One Woman’s Story of Spiritual Awakening ($15 value), the Future Self CD ($12.95 value), the Reclaiming a Split Off Part of Your Authentic Self CD ($12.95 value), your own beautifully bound journal ($19.95 value), and in some ways the most important, my love, support and caring about YOU and YOUR success.
Okay, you probably have a few questions . . . Q. How do I know this will work for me? A.You will know by the results in our first session that this is, or is not, what you are looking for. If it’s not, you can cancel on the spot. If you feel you got nothing worthwhile out of the first session your money will be refunded. Q. Wouldn’t it be more effective to be face-to-face in our sessions rather than on the phone? A. Besides the convenience and time-saving aspect of having our sessions on the phone, I find my clients get much more of my skill on the phone because there is nothing to distract me. I am able to close my eyes and tune into the energy of what is taking place and get a much clearer connection to my intuition which frequently adds amazing insight into my coaching. I’ll let you be the judge when we have our exploratory telephone conversation when you apply for a spot on my program. Q. How does coaching actually work? A. Coaching provides you with regularly scheduled, undistracted, uninterrupted time to delve deeply into what is next for you. It is about creating the space for you to explore what is important to you, what is working and what is not working in your life. As we put more focus on what is working, the things that are not working tend to diminish from lack of attention. Q. Isn’t coaching about the same as talking to a good friend? A. As your coach, I am trained to ask simple, but powerful questions that take you to your deepest truth. As your ally, I maintain a neutral position about your choices with my only objective being that you get what you say you want. You also have the assurance of complete confidentiality, and you will never be judged for your ideas, behaviors, words or secrets. If you have any questions I haven’t addressed here please bring them up in our first exploratory session or email me.
If you are committed to moving forward in your life, even though you don’t know right now what direction to take, then let me show you how! It’s time to take action and see for yourself that this is the solution you have been looking for. “Yes, Jennifer, I’m ready to go forward and apply for a spot in your 90 Days To Aha! Program.”
I am really excited to share with you my 90 Days To Aha! Program. All you need to do is say “Yes!” to getting started on having a life that works. Go ahead . . . click here to apply for your spot in the program.
Love and light, Jennifer T. Grainger
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Even if you have read some books, had some counseling, or attended a workshop or two, and nothing has worked (so far), there’s a good chance you will get some new ideas just by taking a look at this 90 Days to Aha! Program designed to get you clear and confident about your next steps. 
“I so appreciate your support. Your coaching skill allowed me to see things from an entirely different perspective, one I never would have seen on my own. Your help in me getting clear on what was really the most important thing in my life made it possible for me to let go of what was holding me back, and kept me focused on the positive. I could not have gotten through the last couple of months without your support.”